Charmaine de Waard

Divorce Mediator & Counselling Psychologist
Westville, Durban
Telephone: 031 266 0985
Mobile Number: 083 655 2129
49 Maryvale Road, Westville, Durban Metro 3629, South Africa

Divorce and Family Mediation:

I am trained in divorce and family mediation and I am registered with the KwaZulu-Natal Association of Family Mediators. In my professional capacity, I have become more aware in the therapeutic setting of just how detrimental an acrimonious divorce can be on parental relationships and parent-child relationships, leading to a host of psychological disorders and stunted psychological development in both the children and the parents involved.

Usually when a couple decides to divorce, they consult separate attorneys each hoping to get the best settlement deal that they can. However, soon the legal bills and emotional distress begin to overwhelm the whole family. Divorce by mediation helps identify issues relating to the division of assets, maintenance, and parenting in the future. It assists in removing the painful win-lose atmosphere that is often created in adversarial divorces.

Mediation involves negotiating a mutually beneficial and reasonable solution where partners are empowered to be part of the decision-making process regarding their settlement and the future plans regarding their children. Both must accept decisions derived from the negotiations. Parents decide on the future of their children, not the judges and attorneys, which often occurs in a legal battle where the couples are encouraged to battle it out in court.

The process is a fraction of the time and cost that it takes acrimonious divorces to pass through the courts and it minimizes emotional trauma, while creating a co-operative atmosphere to co-parent healthy well-adjusted children into the future once the spousal relationship has ended. Many other forms of divorce negotiations lose sight of the best interests of the children.

Mediation does not take the place of the attorney, but rather provide the couple with the opportunity to consult one attorney who will review and incorporate their mutual agreements into the formal legal divorce agreement. Even our legal system is now recognizing the value of mediation. The Children’s Act (No. 38 of 2005), Section 33 of that Act states that mediation is compulsory for parents drawing up a future parenting plan and the courts themselves are strongly encouraging mediation as opposed to bitter legal battles that take time and money.

In my practice, I assist couples who have made the decision to divorce, in making all the relevant decisions regarding their divorce agreement and parenting and maintenance plans, which allows them to consult one attorney together to present the divorce to the courts, thereby reducing the costs and trauma of litigation dramatically.

Making the call for help is often a scary and overwhelming feeling, but once accomplished, it can be the most empowering experience in assisting you in taking control of your life and divorce at a time when everything else feels out of control.

Professional memberships

  • Health Professions Council of South Africa Registration Number: PS 0066893
  • Psychological Society of South Africa Membership Number: DEW003
  • Board of Healthcare Funders Practice Number: 8645256
  • KwaZulu-Natal Association of Family Mediators (KAFAM)
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Charmaine de Waard

Divorce Mediator & Counselling Psychologist
Westville, Durban
Telephone: 031 266 0985
Mobile Number: 083 655 2129
49 Maryvale Road, Westville, Durban Metro 3629, South Africa

Divorce and Family Mediation:

I am trained in divorce and family mediation and I am registered with the KwaZulu-Natal Association of Family Mediators. In my professional capacity, I have become more aware in the therapeutic setting of just how detrimental an acrimonious divorce can be on parental relationships and parent-child relationships, leading to a host of psychological disorders and stunted psychological development in both the children and the parents involved.

Usually when a couple decides to divorce, they consult separate attorneys each hoping to get the best settlement deal that they can. However, soon the legal bills and emotional distress begin to overwhelm the whole family. Divorce by mediation helps identify issues relating to the division of assets, maintenance, and parenting in the future. It assists in removing the painful win-lose atmosphere that is often created in adversarial divorces.

Mediation involves negotiating a mutually beneficial and reasonable solution where partners are empowered to be part of the decision-making process regarding their settlement and the future plans regarding their children. Both must accept decisions derived from the negotiations. Parents decide on the future of their children, not the judges and attorneys, which often occurs in a legal battle where the couples are encouraged to battle it out in court.

The process is a fraction of the time and cost that it takes acrimonious divorces to pass through the courts and it minimizes emotional trauma, while creating a co-operative atmosphere to co-parent healthy well-adjusted children into the future once the spousal relationship has ended. Many other forms of divorce negotiations lose sight of the best interests of the children.

Mediation does not take the place of the attorney, but rather provide the couple with the opportunity to consult one attorney who will review and incorporate their mutual agreements into the formal legal divorce agreement. Even our legal system is now recognizing the value of mediation. The Children’s Act (No. 38 of 2005), Section 33 of that Act states that mediation is compulsory for parents drawing up a future parenting plan and the courts themselves are strongly encouraging mediation as opposed to bitter legal battles that take time and money.

In my practice, I assist couples who have made the decision to divorce, in making all the relevant decisions regarding their divorce agreement and parenting and maintenance plans, which allows them to consult one attorney together to present the divorce to the courts, thereby reducing the costs and trauma of litigation dramatically.

Making the call for help is often a scary and overwhelming feeling, but once accomplished, it can be the most empowering experience in assisting you in taking control of your life and divorce at a time when everything else feels out of control.

Professional memberships

  • Health Professions Council of South Africa Registration Number: PS 0066893
  • Psychological Society of South Africa Membership Number: DEW003
  • Board of Healthcare Funders Practice Number: 8645256
  • KwaZulu-Natal Association of Family Mediators (KAFAM)
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